I am a Den Parent…….

Today, was just a day.  Work and getting things done for work.  I was so not paying attention to anything Scout related.  Good thing my Bear Den Leader sent an email letting me know there was a Den Meeting tonight. Ugh….how in the world did I space that one out.
Elliot had Scout home work that he did not do, which really was up to me to remind him to do.  So, that part was my fault.  He had a ton of tough math work to do, and that took him about 2 hours to complete.  I thought the Scout homework was just something you showed the DL and your done. Nope, it was a show & share type thing.  I as a Den Parent SUCK!

I relish the time as a Den Parent, since I just get to sit back and DO NOTHING.  I am not the Cub Master, I am not in charge of anything.  I just show up and fade back into the Blackberry Farm (surfing on my iPhone).  I do get to hang out with the other Den Leaders if there and chat.  I watch the other boys to see how they are doing.  So, I do check in.
The new Tiger Den and Den Leaders are FANTASTIC!  They worked on the Nutrition and Food Pyramid, sang songs and did a skit.  Both Den Leaders have their ClassA’s too!
The Webelos were doing an clay art project off in the corner.

Our new Bear Den Leader showed up in his new Class A as well tonight.  Man, I so love it when people are in uniform!

Everyone was on fire tonight.  Except myself, which led to Elliot not having a good time.  He felt out of place and got very fidgety about being there.  He did well when our guest speaker talked about being in Vietnam and doing what he had to do over there as a Helicopter Pilot.  He is the Grandfather of the Den Leader.  He also helped out us out as Tigers.  He is an Eagle Scout from Nebraska.  Very nice man.  One great thing is that he taught the boys the Square Know, Boline & Half Hitch knots.  Overall, Elliot did well in that reguard.

But, to me, tonight was about me not getting him prepared.  This only signals of how involed I am in his scouting experince.  It’s not about MY experince and what I get out of it.  Going to all the Boy Scout trainings, Wood Badge, Pow-wow, Webelos Woods does not matter if he cannot do what is required.

I am beating myself up. Yes.  However, Elliot and I need to sit down and work and talk about what Scouting is and what the books needs us to do.

So, as a Den Parent, I suck at this moment and time.  Scouting is just like School Work. Yes, it’s fun, but doing the requirements is required.

About Adam R. Cox

Current Skyloo District Commissioner Current Skyloo District & Council Trainer Current Council Member at Large (Cascade Pacific Council) Former Tiger DL & CM of P221 in Pioneer District Former Skyloo District CS Roundtable Commissioner. Former Ast Council Commissioner for Commissioner Tools and Communication Former Pioneer District Training Chair WE1-492-09 Beaver W1-492-11 Bobwhite TG ASM Logistic W1-492-17-2
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4 Responses to I am a Den Parent…….

  1. jthoppe says:

    Hang in there, Adam. You have great dedication and ideas for the pack as a unit leader and viewing things at 30,000 feet. It can be hard to view and get into some of the details at 10,000 feet (the den level) and 5,000 feet (your son’s level). When I was officially the CC I made a specific point to just be a Cub parent at my son’s den meetings (I did not wear my uniform, I try to stay back in the “Blackberry Farm” and let the DL run the meetings). Many times it was very hard and I felt disconnected from my son’s involvement at his level and those particular moments in time. Most times my head was at 30,000 feet and thinking about what I needed to be doing to keep the pack running and pointed at True North. I was accused of doing things moreso for the pack and focusing on the other boys and not being there for my son.

    Now that I have handed off the CC role and picked up the planning role for our Webelos den meetings, I am able to connect better with my son and what he is doing. Since I am no longer “in charge” of running the pack, I am enjoying the ride much more being involved directly with my son and his experiences as a Webelos Scout and feel I am focusing my energies more now on the boys’ experiences and fun.

    It is a fine line to walk, but certainly not that fine a line where a self-beating is needed.



  2. Scouter Doug says:

    Keep beating yourself up like this an you’ll have to change your name to Chris. As a former Cubmaster I know how easy it is to get caught up in the big picture of the Pack that sometimes we need a little reminder from the little ones that got us started on this in the first place. You can also see it as a learning experience as far as what your non-leader parents go through and that even for non-leaders they still have responsibilities that come from their children participating in te Pack. . Maybe there’s even a Cubmaster Minute in there to share with your Pack.


  3. scouteradam says:

    Thanks. I appreciate that. It was a rough night……that is what I will chalk it up to. I am very happy the way things are going. However, I need to focus on Elliot and working on scouting on his level.

    Your in Scouting.


  4. Scott says:

    Methinks thy may be beating thyself up too much. This pack would collapse without your dedication. Tomorrow is another day.


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